Healing affirmations for daughters of toxic mothers -
Taken from –here–
* My toxic mother won’t kill me. If she could, she would have already.
* Any guilt I feel regarding my toxic mother was planted, watered and tended by my mother.
* If my toxic mother were a co-worker or neighbor and I moved away, I’d never visit of her again.
* Family secrets instill guilt and shame. Are you being paid to keep family secrets? Then it’s not your job to keep them.
* If you can hear your mother’s voice in your head belittling you, tell her out loud she’s wrong. It’s okay. Other drivers will think you’ve got hands-free.
* Any mother who could be cruel to a child is not going to apologize to that child when they’ve grown up.
* Take everything negative about your mother and flip it in your life: create a welcoming and warm home life; express love and encourage others daily, extend yourself to those in need and remember, a life well lived is the best revenge.
* Five ways to say no to your toxic mother: No, I won’t be doing that. No, don’t count on my being there. No, I’m done subjecting myself to your drama. No, I choose not to accept the stress. No, I have more positive things to do.
* You can tell your toxic mother that as you’ve grown into a woman you’ve developed a better understanding of the choices she made. That should shut her up for a few moments.
* Your toxic mother can only intimidate you if you let her. While she’s busy trying to bully the child you, the adult you can reject her, ignore her, correct her, or report her to authorities.
* Amuse yourself to avoid getting sucked in. Keep an egg timer, a pad and paper by the phone. Tally the lies, the guilt trips and the demands she can make in 3 minutes. Then hang up.
* Never fight crazy with crazy. Crazy is your toxic mother’s ‘hood.
* Repeat after me: My toxic mother does not live in my head. She lives in her head.
* When relatives and friends say they can’t understand how you can treat your mother the way you do, consider telling them the truth.
* A toxic mother is an unnatural disaster.
* You can laugh or you can cry. Laugh. It’ll annoy the hell out of your toxic mother.
* Never hand a toxic “mom bomb” the match.
* On Mother’s Day and other family holidays focus on the positive women (and men) in your life. Thank them for their caring, kindness and encouragement.
* The cruel rule of RSVP is that the one person you hope will decline always comes. Never actually extend an invitation to an event at which you’d hate to see your toxic mother.
* Mother-daughter time is precious only if it’s positive.
* Give your mother the one gift she never gave you: the truth.
* Don’t let your toxic mother rob you of rich friendships with women who on the surface remind you of her. What are the odds your mother had an even more evil twin?
* Remember what my dad said, nobody can resist a joyous woman.
* Consider that your toxic mother may have been treated even more badly as a child than you were. It could keep you from throwing something.
* There is no dishonor in retreat. Refusing to enjoin battle is a small victory when it comes to toxic mothers.
* Keeping your children away from your toxic mother is a no-brainer. Introduce them to kind, responsible elders instead. Don’t know any? Consider visiting or volunteering with your child at a senior center or veterans home for an hour a week.
* Honor thy mother and father? You can honor them by respecting yourself first.
* Stare down your toxic mom fears until she fears you more.
* That which is most personal is most universal. People will understand if you simply say, my mother is not a nice person, but I am.
* Whose little girl am I? I can be my own little girl. I can care for and nurture her myself.
